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We interact with all sorts of people on a daily basis, and certainly some are much more enjoyable to interact with than others. A lot of times people are just having a rough day and they take it out on others. However, in some cases, people regularly exhibit hurtful, narcissistic behavior and are unaware of how their actions affect those around them.
Narcissism comes in many forms, but studies show that between 0.5% and 5% of the US population is diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Others have varying levels of narcissism as a personality trait. (In this article, “narcissism” refers to people with high levels of this trait, unless the term “NPD” is used.)
How do you know if you’ve run into a narcissist? Unless you’re a mental health professional, it’s hard to know for sure. So we reached out to several psychologists who are doing research on narcissism and have worked with clients with NPD to find out the signs of narcissism, the different types of narcissism, and what people they know exhibit narcissism. I explained how best to protect my health in case of an accident. tendency.
What is Narcissism?
“Narcissism is characterized by various forms of empathy, entitlement, grandiosity, the pursuit of approval and admiration, envy of others, egocentrism, poor reciprocal and reciprocal capacity, and a deep sense of insecurity that underlies all of this. It is a personality style that is characterized by a pattern of ,” says Dr. Ramani Durvasura, a psychologist and author of several books such as:don’t you know who i am ‘ How to stay sane in an age of narcissism, entitlement, and disrespect. “It runs on a continuum, from the milder narcissism that can be experienced as self-involvement, selfishness, vanity, and immaturity, to the more severe narcissism that can be experienced as exploitative, coercive, and aggressive. It can range from severe to severe.”
According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM–5), to be eligible for a formal diagnosis of NPD, a person must demonstrate at least five of the following characteristics:
Has an exaggerated sense of self-importance (eg, exaggerates achievements, expects to be recognized as superior without actually achieving them)
Preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, brilliance, beauty, perfect love, etc.
Believes that they are “special” and should only be associated with or understood by other special people (or organizations)
need too much praise
have a sense of entitlement, including unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment and compliance with their own expectations)
Exploitative and takes advantage of others to achieve their own ends
Lack of empathy and unwillingness to empathize with the needs of others
Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him
exhibit arrogant and arrogant behavior or attitudes
different types of narcissists
The two main types of narcissism manifest themselves in different ways.
Exaggerated (overt) narcissism: What most of us think of as narcissism is a specific type called megalomaniacal narcissism. People who exhibit the traits of grandiose narcissism generally fit the above criteria because of their ingrained beliefs. “A pretentious narcissist rightfully believes in his head that he’s better than you. He’s inherently better,” says the New York University psychology and data science clinic. Associate Professor Dr. Pascal Wallisch says: “And obviously, if they’re too perfect, they can’t really accept responsibility. It must have been you. In our research, that type goes hand in hand with psychopathy.” They inherently feel great about themselves.
Vulnerable (hidden) narcissism: Although not much talked about, according to the research Wallish worked on, vulnerable narcissism is actually more common than exaggerated narcissism. “The individual may become more anxious, angry, moody, resentful, victimized, perceiving others to be hostile to them, hostile, sad, and having difficulty functioning. It can be,” says Durvasula. “These people are often very angry with the world and have a deep-seated fear of failure as well as shame.” It may develop after childhood experiences have made one feel inadequate. “They literally can’t stand it, so they refuse responsibility and take credit for themselves,” says Wallish. “They feel like there is a hole in their heart and they need credit to fill it, but they are already drowning and cannot accept responsibility. This becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and other people really start resetting their prophecies, which makes them even more so.”
Beyond these two more well-studied types of narcissism, there are additional categories of informal narcissism, including:
A formal diagnosis requires an evaluation by a qualified mental health professional. “To ‘diagnose’ a personality disorder, an expert not only needs to determine that there are sufficient numbers of these patterns that persist over time, but also that these patterns are clinically meaningful.” It also needs to be determined whether it is causing social and occupational disability. Or it causes pain to those who have that pattern,” Durvasula says. “Evaluating therapists also look for the person’s capacity for consistent empathy, intimacy, and intimacy; the extent to which they are able to spontaneously set realistic goals; Keep in mind that having narcissistic tendencies does not mean that you fully meet the diagnostic criteria for NPD. Additionally, people with NPD do not see their behavior patterns as a problem, so they may not be able to reach out to a mental health professional for evaluation.
Unfortunately, due to its inherent complexity, narcissism is not easily treated, and studies have shown mixed results for different treatment approaches. “Studies that show decent results for narcissistic clients usually have other afflictions, such as anxiety, depression, or general distress, which often lead to treatment, and to the vulnerable self.” It’s done with people who are in love, and it requires long-term, consistent treatment,” says Durvasula. “Most people don’t have access to this or can’t afford it.”
Many people with narcissism don’t seek treatment in the first place, and when they do, they don’t continue. For example, a person with extreme self-esteem, self-importance, and lack of empathy probably thinks that therapy can’t solve their problems. “Narcissists often don’t seek therapy unless something is wrong in their life and they want to solve the problem rather than deal with it,” says Durvasula. “Although change is highly tolerant, there are some therapies for which some evidence has been shown, such as schema therapy and metastasis-focused therapies.” Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is also used.
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“Typical therapy is to challenge the narcissist’s claims,” says Wallish. Acceptance may be a better approach. But it is very difficult. Because even if you accept it, how do you then tell them they are still wrong about this? you will need skills. The prognosis is not good at the moment, but I’m not saying it’s impossible. It’s just hard. According to Wallish, the success of treatment also depends on how long the person has been exhibiting narcissistic behavior and their trust in the mental health professional they work with. It says. He hopes that additional research will eventually shed more light on effective treatments.
how to deal with a narcissist
While there is no magic cure for all narcissistic tendencies, these strategies can help you protect yourself. In case of a serious crisis or emergency, do not hesitate to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or text 88788 “START”.
Conclusion: If someone close to you seems to have narcissistic tendencies, don’t take it personally, advises Wallish. Because he probably treats other people the same way he treats himself. Unfortunately, these negative behaviors are deeply rooted and very difficult to change. “These people are very insecure, have little capacity for self-reflection, and are often unaware of how they are hurting others,” says Durvasula. “If you stay in a relationship expecting the other person to change, it may go a long way or it may never happen.”
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